How To Get a Dog To Like You in 7 Steps

When meeting a dog for the first time, it’s important to take things slow. Instead of rushing over to introduce yourself, let the dog approach you on their own timeline, advises Kate LaSala, a certified dog behavior consultant and owner of Rescued by Training, in Rocky Point, North Carolina.  

“Always let the dog come to you,” says LaSala. “Dogs are social creatures, and if they want an interaction, they will let us know.” 

Dogs can’t talk, so it’s important to pay close attention to their body language.  

A dog’s body language can offer important information about their emotional state and willingness to interact, says Alicia Collins, an American Kennel Club trainer and evaluator, as well as the founder and CEO of K9 Activity Club, in Sonoma County, California. 

“A dog that wants interaction will have a soft, wiggly body, and may approach with their head low and a relaxed, submissive posture,” says Collins. “If a dog is shying away from you or your touch, respect their space and give them time to feel comfortable.” 

Additional signs that a dog wants space include: 

• A tucked tail 
• Stiff body 
• No eye contact 
• Growling 

Whether befriending a human or a canine, sharing food can break the ice. For best results, offer something extra yummy, and give your new furry friend plenty of space to check out the snack.  

“Using high-value treats like cheese or chicken, toss them to the dog instead of hand-feeding,” advises LaSala. “This reduces any chances the dog is conflicted or being coerced, and only approaching because you have food.” If the dog isn’t yours, always check with their caretakers to ensure the treat is acceptable.  

“Some dogs have food allergies, so always ask before offering a treat,” says Collins. “My favorite training rewards are small, freeze-dried bites with limited ingredients.”

While waiting for the dog to approach you, keep an upbeat, positive attitude. If they’re debating coming over, a friendly demeanor might seal the deal.  

“You can invite the dog to engage with you using happy talk, patting your legs, and getting low on the dog’s level,” suggests LaSala. “But avoid reaching for the dog or invading their space.” 

Just as you’re reading the dog’s body language, the dog is reading yours, says Collins.  

“Dogs are highly sensitive to energy and communicate beyond words,” she adds. “Stay calm, share good vibes, and let them come to you.” 

Finally, it’s the moment you’ve been waiting for: the pet! Again, the approach here is slow and steady. Belly rubs and cuddles may come later, but as you get to know a dog, offer a gentle pet in a neutral zone.   

“If you’re petting an unfamiliar dog, always ask the owner first and avoid patting the top of the head, as it can feel threatening,” advises Collins. 

“Instead, reach under their chin, along their side, or on their hip. Stay mindful of their body language and adjust accordingly.” 

If the pup tenses up at your touch, pull away and give them space.  

For dogs, playtime is a love language. Once you’re well-acquainted and comfortable with each other, interactive play sessions can bring your relationship from new friends to best buds. 

“Play strengthens the bond between you and your dog by building trust and leadership,” says Collins. “Every dog has their own play style. Pay attention to their body language, and mimic their movements to get them interested in playing with you.” 

For some dogs, there’s nothing better than a high-intensity Frisbee session. Other pups will be more interested in a game of tug-of-war, or toss-the-stuffie. Play around and find what works best for you and your four-legged friend, says Collins.   

Training isn’t just for puppies. Lifelong instruction can help keep your dog mentally and physically fit, as well as strengthen the human-canine connection.  

Consider enrolling your dog (and yourself!) in classes with a professional dog trainer, and work on training games for at-home enrichment.  

“Enrichment isn’t optional,” says LaSala. “It’s not a nice, extra thing we should be doing for our animals—it’s a critical part of their well-being.” 

LaSala suggests the following easy enrichment activities you can do right in your home: 

• Find it: Toss a few treats in front of your dog and say, “Find it!” As they catch on to the game, increase the distance you throw the treats, encouraging your dog to use their super sniffing abilities.  
• Trick training: Learning tricks gives dogs a mental workout—and it’s fun for everyone! Simple tricks such as “shake,” “paw,” and leg weaves can build trust and confidence. 
• Hide-and-seek: Hide in another room, then call out to your dog. When they find you, reward them with a treat and praise. In addition to being fun, this is a great way to train your dog to come when called!